Quick Pointers For a Distinctive Relationship

Relationships build our emotions and form our interactions with God, our spouses, partners, family, loved ones and those around us. No matter how much we desire a spectacular relationship, it will not come so easily without applying some basic principles. Some people believe that they only need to find the right guy or girl for them and that sorts out their relationship; but research has shown that this is not entirely correct. No matter how long you've been with your partner or how much they fit in as your "perfect guy or girl", you have to continually put yourself forward and ensure that the relationship remains hot.  Here are some principles on making our relationships work:


1. Be satisfied with yourself: If you do not like yourself, you won't believe that others like you. Being satisfied with yourself is reflected in your self esteem. Naturally, Having self-esteem is easy for people brought up by loving balanced parents, but it can be harder for others. Having self esteem means the ability to be strong as an individual, hence not inclining too hard on your partner and relying too much on them for reassurance. The stronger you are as a person, the stronger your relationship will be.


2. Like your partner: If you really like your partner, then you have an excellent footing for a relationship. No matter how much you love each other, if you don't like yourselves and enjoy being together your differences will pull you apart.


3. Create time for each other: The amount of time we give to things is a measure of how important we think they are. I know that in our busy lives of today especially considering work and our kids this is one of the least of our priorities, but we need to continually make time for one another. Make the evening where you can go out or stay home and eat a nice meal.


4. Physical contact: Physical contact is utterly crucial to our happiness. Make time to hug, caress and cuddle everyday.


5. Have a personal relationship with God: Having a relationship with God will help you clearly understand intimacy, love, respect, honor and unity.


Apart from the pointers identified above, to establish a distinctive relationship you also have to be sincere, candid and faithful. These are difficult because, sometimes, we are not even truthful to ourselves; so it can be a bit frightful to bare ourselves to others.


You also need to be dependable and show admiration for your partner. This is a demonstration of security which is necessary in a relationship for both men and women.


Enough said! However, one vital point to note is COMMUNICATION. Most issues can be resolved if the couple involved sits together and really talk about the problem. You must consider place, time and tone when you are about to communicate with your partner, especially on sensitive matters. Let us take an example, say your husband is not happy with you because of the expensive shoes you just bought, knowing fully well that the financial situation in your house is low. How do you respond to this? Do you start talking about this exact situation right there in the shopping mall? No! You quickly apply the principle of place, time and tone.


I believe that communication is the key that holds all the other pointers in place. All the above approaches are also useful in our relationships with friends, family, colleagues etc.