After the Wedding Ceremony, What matters to you?

Women and Men undoubtedly speak different languages, that is just how life is. You get married and then, all of a sudden you want to change your spouse without taking responsibility for your own actions in the marriage. When we choose to stop being so self righteous and consider the needs of our spouse, we get the feeling of peace deep within us. Recently, i wrote about How to become the woman that every Nigerian man wants and Women noted the key points necessary to attract and keep that man. Now, its time for men to take note: If you do not know what matters to your wife, it could seriously dent your marriage.


In his book, Straight Talk for Men About Marriage: What Men Need to Know about Marriage (And What Women Need to Know About Men); Martin G. Friedman revealed some fabulous tactics for a great marriage.


So, what really matters to you after marriage?


1. Complete Love against Respect: Every wife yearns for limitless affection, and unconditional love. They want their husbands to display such emotions regularly. She desires that you express your love for her daily. Think about how it would feel if your wife didn't respect you. Terrible, right? The same is true for women who feel unloved.

What matters: Show your wife you love her as often as you can by being physically close to her, buying gifts and caring for her with tenderness. Display your affection for your wife by saying "i love you". Exhibit all your affection to her and she will most likely give you all her respect. 

2. Appreciation: Both men and women often feel a deep sense of being under appreciated. However, Women want "Thank you" for the numerous activities they co-ordinate on a daily business. Their acts of kindness, cooking, tending to the house, motherhood and being by your side. 

What matters: Declare your praises for her. The value is almost instantly realized when your wife hears "i am proud of you". This is a show of appreciation for her.

3. Sex and Sensation: Sex and sensation go together. Your wife wants you to treat her as an emotional being. Women are not wired up like men. Women feel more connected and committed to their husbands through sex. She feels loved when you crave her with love and lots of affection.

What matters: Make sensation a priority in your sex life. See sex as an emotional connection.